Moving to a new country is exciting and daunting, with so much to see and do and so much to figure out. Having somebody to lean on for tips and guidance, whether a local or fellow traveler, can be absolutely game-changing.
The good news is that in most places it’s pretty easy to meet people and build connections that last. Before I moved to Rhodes four years ago, I visited for a few weeks. I loved the vibe and the people so much that within a week on the island I decided to make it my next home.
But after making a few local friends, I learned they don’t quite feel the same way about us expats – unless you play your cards right. Here’s my list of the best ways to meet like-minded folks, win over locals, and build a good reputation.
- Greetings: Just say “hello”, or “good morning,” or whatever the local phrase may be. Here in Greece, exchanging a pleasant “kalimera” always brightens my day. Offering a greeting is as simple a gesture as it gets, yet it can be so powerful. Even if you’re having a bad day, make the effort. People remember it, sometimes years later.
- Online Groups: Facebook is gold for finding local expat groups that meet often and share tips about the area. You can also check out Digital Nomad World, InterNations, Expatica, Circle, and other platforms of interest. Join the groups you like, introduce yourself, be authentic, and engage. Then, be patient. If you persevere and stay gracious, it’s likely to pay off with a few friends.
- Always Tip: It might sound like a little thing, but reliably leaving respectable tips goes a long way to establishing a good reputation among locals. Look up the standard tipping rate in that country and, unless the service was stunningly bad, leave at least that amount, even more for quality service. Preferably in cash. This could lead to perks like a last-minute reservation and might save you a major cringe moment when you bump into your server at the gym or supermarket.
- Local Clubs: Take the time to do a bit of research and find a few popular local groups, clubs, and regular events. Join a hiking or kayak group, take a dance class, play on the volleyball or football team. Even if it’s something new! You’ll be amazed at the easy bonds built through common interests. With any luck, you’ll soon be invited to a big party or wedding and find your local tribe.
Goodwill is fragile, but it’s also a powerful currency. If you’re able to use it to connect with a few locals and fellow travelers, your life abroad will be easier and more enjoyable.
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An expat of 16 years, South Africa-born Megan Ballantyne is trained in yoga, reiki, hypnotherapy and more, and the founder/owner of Rhodes Wellness, advising global clients how to get unstuck and change-up.
Megan Ballantyne
