The Babysitter
By Steve Rosse
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October 2007
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they excavated the ruins of Pompeii in 1748, the archeologists made plaster
casts of the impressions that the dying citizens of that city made in the
soft ash as it smothered them. While the inevitable couples locked
in intercourse have since garnered most of the world’s notice, to me the
most poignant image has always been that of a young girl caught by the
toxic snowfall in the act of running with an infant in her arms.
The girl was
about 13 when she died, and the baby about a year old. The girl was
wearing iron bands on her ankles and the infant had solid gold bracelets,
so archeologists have deduced that she was not a relative but a slave,
and most likely the baby’s nanny. I have always wondered about what
kind of devotion drove the chattel to sacrifice her last mortal moments
in a futile effort to save her oppressor.
In the months
to come, that devotion may become more apparent. When my wife and
I drove home from Ranong to Phuket last month, the car was sagging dangerously
close to the pavement from the weight of two more passengers than it had
carried on the way up. Besides the original three passengers: myself,
Mem and our son Andy, there was our new daughter Mandy, whose three kilograms
probably had more effect on our little car’s cheap suspension than you
might imagine, and Pui, a 13-year-old girl from a poor family who live
on a farm next to Mem’s daddy’s plantation.
Pui was brought
to the hospital the day before Mem checked out, dressed in a Harley Davidson
T-shirt and carrying her one other outfit, plus a comb, toothbrush and
three old comic books in a paper shopping bag. Mem had whined to
her family for a week that you just can’t find good help these days on
Phuket, so the family decided that we needed help too young to complain,
too young to steal and possibly a little too Burmese to run away.
Of course I
immediately put my foot down. “There’s no way we’re taking a 13-year-old
girl into our house,” I said politely but firmly.
“It’s too late,”
Mem answered. “We’ve already given her family 1,000 baht and given
my father 1,500 baht for finding her.”
When Mem checked
into the hospital, she put all of her jewelry and money into my computer
bag, and despite the fact that all of her gold made the bag so heavy that
I had to avoid wooden floors, I carried that boat anchor around on my shoulder
for the whole two weeks we were in Ranong. Mem could not yet get
out of bed unassisted; how she managed to sneak the money out of my bag
and into her father’s fist was beyond me. And I thought the finder’s
fee a little high. Mem’s Daddy is the palad amphur (deputy district
chief) in Ranong; by rights 1,500 baht should have bought me the motorcycle
taxi concession outside the post office.
And how much
are we going to pay Pui?” I asked.
“Pay her?”
answered my wife. “She’s too young to work for money. We can’t
pay her; that would be illegal. We’ll feed her and give her a place
to sleep; if she’s good with the children, I’ll give her some of my old
clothes.”
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“Doesn’t she have
to go to school?”
“She’s finished
the sixth grade. Her family can’t pay for her any more.”
“What will
the neighbors say?”
“If she’s good
with the children, they’ll try to steal her away from us. Whenever
you talk to the neighbors about Pui, be sure to complain a lot.”
“I think I
can handle that. But she’s pretty cute, what the heck are my friends
going
to think?”
“Do they have
any reason to think anything?”
“Huh?
No! Baby, you know I’ve never looked at another woman. I only
subscribe to Playboy for the fiction.”
“Then it’s
settled. Put her stuff in the car.”
It was one
of those arguments that no amount of my studying Thai or Mem studying English
could solve. I suppose I could look up the injunction against slavery
in the Talmud or the Constitution of the United States and show them to
Mem, but she wouldn’t see them as relevant. I suppose she could point
out to me the limited choices a dirt-poor 13-year-old girl with no citizenship
documents has in this country, but I wouldn’t accept them as inevitable.
And Pui seems to be thrilled to death with her new job, though that’s probably
not the right word for her position in our family.
All the way
back from Ranong I could see her bucktoothed grin in the back seat, between
my daughter and my son, as she played with Andy. Keeping a toddler
amused when he’s lashed into a car seat for five hours is a Sisyphean task,
but Pui handled it like a hero. And my son arrived back home in Phuket
absolutely smitten with Phi Pui. Now he won’t go to bed unless she
sings him to sleep. The song she sings is the jingle from a hair-conditioner
commercial, but Andy doesn’t seem to mind.
And so I keep
thinking of that nameless slave girl who unwittingly became immortalized
in an act of selfless devotion in the midst of one of the most terrible
natural disasters to ever befall the human race. My wife and I have
lost two cats to the cobras that live in the jungle behind our house, and
the neighbors have lost a dog to the ten-wheel trucks that use our soi
as a shortcut between the gravel quarries on the mainland and the construction
sites in town. By making Pui our nanny we have entrusted the people
we love most in the world into her small, brown, un-emancipated hands.
All we can count on is whatever made that little Pompeian slave pick up
the Master’s baby and try to outrun the lava and the falling ash.
Steve Rosse is the author of two
books on Thailand; Thai vignettes and
Expat Days: making a Life in Thailand.
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