Letters
and Reflections of a Reluctant Expatriate
By Mary
Ned Fotis
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November 2006
As
a teenager, Mary Ned Fotis would lie on the grass at her rural Midwestern
home, gazing at changing patterns in the clouds, wondering if the sky looked
the same in France, in Africa, in ??. Her questions were answered
years later when, along with her peripatetic Greek husband and toddler
son, she was plucked from the security of their New England suburb and
plunked into Cairo, a place she had earlier vowed she would never return
to. Her letters and reflections humorously follow her growing family
as they face challenges (“Mommy, there was a cobra in the playground today”)
and delights (yes, there IS a rabbit in the moon—in Southeast Asia, that
is) of six years of expatriate life in Africa and Asia in the 1980s.
“Well, I’ve
seen the pyramids—and never again as long as I live will I ever set foot
in this country again!” I announced as we boarded the plane and left
the desert sands behind.
Two years later,
we moved to Cairo. No wonder I was a reluctant expatriate.
My first experience
with Egypt had been a combination business trip/honeymoon for which I was
ill-prepared. Clad in jeans and tee-shirts, whisked from the airport
from our overnight flight from South Africa, we were—to our amazement—escorted
to the presidential suite of a new luxury hotel overlooking the Nile.
Due to a shortage of hotel rooms and series of miscommunications,
and unable to switch hotels until the next day, we spent our first night
in these “luxurious” surroundings, quickly learning that all that glitters
is not gold.
Perched on
a French provincial settee, surrounded by marble tables, bizarre crystal
lamps, incredibly ornate furniture and watered silk wallpaper, I gazed
out of one of our many bay windows overlooking the Nile to the splendor
of Cairo’s domed and minaret-dotted skyline. We had—for the two of
us—three bathrooms (the “green room,” the “brown room” and the “blue room”);
it took us a while to learn which one had a functioning shower, which one
to use for a toilet that flushed, and which one’s faucet didn’t drip—no
wonder there were three of them, as we needed all three. In addition,
we had three balconies with chairs and tables (where were our friends so
we could throw a party?) and three separate living rooms, or perhaps I
should say salons, with (dusty) crystal chandeliers, (cracked) marble tables
and (uncomfortable) brocade and silk-upholstered furniture. Oh, where
to sit? Where to sit?
We soon emerged
from our awestruck state as we explored our surroundings and realized that
we were indeed in Egypt, and therefore: Not one of the three built-in
radios worked; there were glasses, but no water to drink; there were oriental
carpets, but we had to hopscotch over the cigarette ashes; none of the
three bathtubs had been cleaned, which was odd considering that water spurted
from the showerhead sporadically and without provocation, and the suite’s
elegantly molded and gilded doors were covered with black fingerprints.
Nonetheless, we were humbled, clad as we were, to be “presidential” for
a night.
The next day
we removed ourselves to Cairo’s legendary Shepherd Hotel, first built in
1814, famed as an historic hotel which hosted emperors, kings and queens.
We soon discovered to our dismay that the original structure had burned
down during the rebellion against King Farouk in 1952, and that the present
Soviet-style structure bore the name only, not even the same location.
We were more down to earth in our spartan surroundings with early American
motel furnishings with a little fringe added for the oriental touch.
The Persian carpets’ brilliant hues were obscured by strata of overlying
dirt (which dynasty?), further blurred by the funereal pall cast by what
appeared to be torchieres straight from a funeral parlor. We did
enjoy our several balconies overlooking Cairo’s noisy and chaotic street
scene, so much better viewed from above.
Eventually we
plunged in, accosted by frenetic guides awaiting their prey, much as it
must have been for centuries, or should I say millennia? After several
hours of touring, we escaped the busy street scene with what we thought
would be a relaxing sailboat ride on the Nile, cut short when the boat’s
real owner rowed up, yelling and screaming, forced us onto another boat,
threatened to extort double-payment and called the police when we refused.
Meanwhile, the boatman who literally “took us for a ride” and whom we had
paid generously, fled the scene, leaving us to deal with the boat’s owner
and the police, surrounded by a crowd of curious bystanders—most of Cairo,
it seemed to us, except for “the guy in a long brown robe” who was surely
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We won’t even
get into the food and how I left the contents of my stomach at the Great
Pyramid of Khufu (Cheops). So you can now perhaps understand my horror
at Frank’s pronouncement, two years after this original initiation to Egypt:
“Well, it looks like we’ll be moving to Cairo for two years."
We were finally
getting settled in our New England suburb, I had at last made some friends
in the neighborhood, and our son was just a year old. Life was good.
How could we possibly be uprooted to go back THERE—and with a baby!?!
Well, thank God we did. Those two years in Cairo stretched to three
and then four, and more. When we did eventually depart, it was with
great sorrow on my part, as I grew to love that crazy and exasperating
place. The only consolation was that we were leaving for another
adventure, an assignment in Thailand, which couldn’t have been more different—where
yells were replaced by whispers, brusqueness by refinement, sand by water,
and camels and donkeys by elephants and water buffalo.
I was a reluctant
expatriate no more.
And from the Egypt
years…
Mummies
and Mud
With mummy
wrappings protruding from our pockets and shirts, we sifted through the
crumbling mud bricks first molded perhaps 4,000-5,000 years ago.
The original straw remains in these ancient building blocks, many now a
fine powder forming wonderful landslides for Jared and his friend on the
lower half of this Hawara pyramid near the fringes of the Fayoum oasis
several hours south of Cairo. The upper level remains very nearly
perfect, and we observed how each mud brick, perhaps sixteen inches long,
rested on those beneath. The immutability of stone is omnipresent
here in Egypt, but we were surprised at the longevity of this unfired mud
brick.
We wandered
through the extensive burial ground and ancient labyrinth at the base of
the pyramid, where pieces of hand-woven linen peeked through the powdery
soil, some still covering bones. One teenaged boy in our party uncovered
TWO mummies! The rest of us stumbled among multifarious bones and
cloth mummy wrappings. (An embassy employee wife later told me of
uncovering an entire mummy head in her garden shed, perhaps left by a previous
tenant. In fact, so many mummies have been unearthed from the Egyptian
soil that “mummy” became a generic commodity in England in the 1800s.)
In the beginning,
I carefully sneaked a tiny one-inch square piece of the ancient cloth into
my pocket. One hour later, this “pharaonic fabric” had become so
common that I was rejecting anything under eight inches long. And
then my interest turned to pottery shards—chunks of ancient amphora, water
or storage jars buried with the dead to provide ample sustenance for their
eternal journey. We gradually discarded our November jackets,
sweaters and hats, and stood—quite hot!—in short sleeves, basking under
the same sun and lovely cloudy skies that canopied those early workers
who—brick by brick—built this pyramid. I looked to my right—and saw
my son in a tiny burial pit, digging away with a leg bone.
With that,
we departed for Fayoum, desert oasis a hundred and twenty kilometers south
of Cairo, known for its straw baskets, as well as the world-famous 2,000-year
old Fayoum Portraits, individual representative funerary masks painted
during the Roman period on small boards to be placed over mummies’ faces.
To see the Fayoum Portraits, however, one must travel to museums in the
US, England, France, Germany, Russia and Greece, as well as Cairo.
As usual, I
was in search of typical Egyptian arts and crafts for the Christmas bazaar
to be held in one week—enough to call for a two-car convoy on a beautiful
Friday. After wild and frantic bargaining, we appeared to accomplish
our goal for the bazaar, but a friend still wanted a very large square
basket, and none remained. Thus we loaded one basket-lady, a pretty
freckled young woman with a one-month-old infant, into one of the cars
and set off for her home five miles away where she assured us were hundreds
more baskets—and there were!
We stopped
at a typical hut village by the water pump, which seemed to be the “town
hall” as well. Girls in orange, fuchsia and purple dresses with earthenware
pots and copper pans on their heads carried water for their households.
Old women (old? perhaps thirty and up) in black sat chewing and spitting
sugar cane. As we wound through the maze of alleyways past lovely
old wooden doors and iron grillwork—on mud houses with dirt floors—we threaded
our way in and out of groups of children, and then the entire passage was
blocked by a camel, bearing four times its volume in sugarcane.
We ducked into
a doorway with ducks and hens—and finally reached the basket-lady’s house,
where we all bought more than we needed at more than we should have paid.
The beauty of some of the people, the friendliness of nearly all, the poverty
yet resilience of the human spirit amid the beauty of the palm trees, decorative
brickwork, and colorful garb contrasted with the squalor—runny noses, fly-infested
eyes, deformities. We were all appreciative for our brief glimpse
into village life and somehow more quiet and thoughtful—and thankful—as
we drove away.
Excerpts from
Cobras in the Playground, Rabbits in the Moon: Letters and Reflections
of a Reluctant Expatriate (2006), available at
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