I had been
in Ankara about a year when I became pregnant. Every Turk I knew,
friends and coworkers, schoolteachers and housekeepers, all had the same
reaction. Smiling, they would shrug and say, "It's a fertile country".
Then the teasing would begin. Perhaps it was the water I drank from
the fountain in ancient Ephesus, the one tour guides tout as bringing luck
in love or procreation. Or some fertility talisman I had unknowingly
stroked in an antique shop. As an Appalachian fiddle player’s daughter,
I was no stranger to superstition. I had witnessed my father slipping
a rattlesnake’s rattle into the hollow of his fiddle to “keep the devil
out”. So I went along with the soothsaying.
After all,
in Ankara it seemed I was surrounded by mystics. I could hardly drink a
cup of coffee without someone offering to read my future in the grounds.
I was looking
forward to having a baby in a country where motherhood is honoured and
where breast-feeding has always been encouraged. Turkey is, after
all, the land of Cybele, the ancient multi-breasted mother goddess worshipped
in Anatolia by the Phrygians in the 8th century B.C.
Nonetheless,
paying homage to the shamans of modern medicine and appeasing the gods
of extended family, I travelled to New York for a sonogram, which showed
in my second or third month that everything seemed normal. Being
thirty-six, I discussed with my American doctor the risks of pregnancy
at my age and whether or not an amniocentesis was necessary. Such procedures,
routinely done in the States, were at that time not so routine in Ankara.
I decided to forgo it, ignoring the suggestion of a worried relative to
remain in the States to have the baby. Bearing a child is a natural,
universal experience, I thought, my own mother successfully delivered all
13 of her children without benefit of sonogram or amniocentesis.
I was trusting fate.
And I was
trusting the many people around me in Ankara, who took such good care of
me. Among these were the kapici and his family. Literally
"doorman”, the kapici was more of a concierge or superintendent
in charge of building maintenance, a person who performed daily grocery
shopping for each tenant. His wife helped out with housekeeping
duties. His youngest daughter, Zübeyde, a wide-eyed and energetic
fifteen yearold, ran errands for us.
Zübeyde
was a window into another way of life, of the Anatolian village and its
earthy simplicity. I wanted to paint rural scenes and soon was
invited to Zübeyde’s village, about an hour’s drive outside Ankara.
But when we arrived, the car’s trunk packed with art supplies, I quickly
forgot the landscape, riveted to scenes of village women: making
yoghurt in clay amphoras, stirring pots over an open hearth, kneading dough
on a broad hand-carved board smooth from years of pressing flour and water
together.
Female village
life fascinated me. Hardy women performed backbreaking farm
work and housework, hoeing the fields, hauling water from the well, endlessly
cleaning and preparing food. Then as the sky grew dark their hands
would move in the rhythmic, concentrated flutter of crocheting or tatting,
looping and knotting thread and beads into graceful lace trim for linens
and headscarves.
When I had
just begun to show my pregnancy around the fourth month I ran into Zübeyde,
her mother and one of her aunts in the apartment hallway. They
smiled, tested my breasts and belly and conferred amongst themselves, laughing
and shaking their heads. When I asked Zübeyde to translate
she held up two fingers and said, "Ikiz!Ikiz gelecek...
twins will come." Twins? No way. My New York doctor hadn’t mentioned
twins. I tried to explain, in broken Turkish, how I knew they were
mistaken.
The women listened
to me politely and then dismissed the results as they said goodbye. “Insallah,
ikiz gelecek, insallah,” they said, twins are coming if God wills
it.
I was suddenly
fed up with these charming villagers.
Earlier that
day I had been on the phone trying to convince my worried, over-protective
older sister that I was going to be all right, that Ankara was a modern
city with perfectly adequate hospitals, good doctors and medical facilities.
Perhaps I was trying to convince myself, too. And then, any illusions
I might have had about where I was evaporated. These toothless women
wearing village salvar, loosely gathered slacks under mismatched
printed skirts, and the beaded veils that so enchanted me just a few months
ago now worried me with nonsense. Who were they to give
me a prognosis, I pouted. Feeling me up, predicting twins with
their insallah and masallah - God willing, God protect me.
A few months
later I missed my prenatal appointment, having lost my balance since my
belly was so huge, fallen and broken my ankle. When I finally went
to my local hospital for a sonogram, I was in my eighth month.
I understood
the Turkish technician to say, “Here’s one head... and here’s
the other head”. Fearing I might be bearing a monster, I asked her
if the baby had two heads. She looked at me very seriously,
and said, “Twins. You don't know? You’re having twins.”